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8 Shackles Every Pastor Should Shatter

8 Shackles Every Pastor Should Shatter

Article by Christopher Asmus via The Gospel Coalition Before my first pastorate, I had often heard pastors lament the challenges of ministry. I always assumed they were warning me of the cranky congregant or divisive deacon. What I didn’t know is the difficult person they were warning me of would not only be in my church, but in my skin.…

Why Am I Still Like This? My Experience with Same-Sex Attraction

Why Am I Still Like This? My Experience with Same-Sex Attraction

Article by Christopher Asmus via Desiring God Like a tea kettle on a stovetop, the pressure continued to build inside me until the question burst: “God, why did you make me like this?” As a new believer, and someone who had experienced lifelong same-sex attractions (SSA), I couldn’t help but feel like I had drawn the short stick. I thought,…

Satisfied in the Arms of Another: Four Lessons for Same-Sex-Attracted Christians

Satisfied in the Arms of Another: Four Lessons for Same-Sex-Attracted Christians

Article by Christopher Asmus, Guest Contributor via Desiring God   When I began sharing my story, I had no idea how many people like me would come running for help. I am a married man, and a pastor, who experiences same-sex attraction. Since the first time I wrote about my journey and struggle, I have received hundreds of emails from men and women…

Three Questions to Ask Before You Snack

Three Questions to Ask Before You Snack

Article by Christopher Asmus, Guest Contributor via Desiring God   Feeling utterly frustrated, I crawled up the stairs and headed to bed full, but empty; bloated, but deflated — again. After another self-made promise to “eat better today,” I had just spent the last twenty minutes binge eating pizza, Oreos, peanut butter, and a few other snacks. I had such a good…

Longing for Intimacy: Four Promises for Same-Sex-Attracted Christians

Longing for Intimacy: Four Promises for Same-Sex-Attracted Christians

Article by Christopher Asmus, Guest Contributor via Desiring God   I am a husband, a father, and a pastor. And for as long as I can remember, I have experienced same-sex attractions (SSA). Although I have always been physically and romantically attracted to women, I also have never been without deep emotional and sexual attractions to men. Many in our culture…

Why Do We Give In to Porn?

Why Do We Give In to Porn?

Article by Christopher Asmus, Guest Contributor via Desiring God   You know the scenario: The room is empty. You’re alone. You look over at your folded laptop sitting idle on the desk, and the urge for sexual release that has been intensifying all day collides with the seductive thought of indulging in porn yet again. You think to yourself, “I know…

True Worship Displays, Not Distracts

True Worship Displays, Not Distracts

Article by Christopher Asmus, Guest Contributor via Desiring God   As a worship pastor, I’ve heard the concern voiced many times: “I don’t want to raise my hands in worship because I don’t want to draw attention to myself.” True worshipers want to make much of Christ through congregational singing; they desire that others’ attention be fixed on God (Psalm 115:1),…